n parent/teen communication, body language, eye contact and even unconscious responses are key aspects of the communication. As teens, we easily communicate disrespect – something that is under the enormous blanket of “Children obey your parents” (Ephesians 6:1) – through lack of eye contact. Slamming doors (sometimes an unconscious response though usually a conscious and fully rebellious response) is definitely disrespectful.

Sloppy stance is very rarely appreciated. In fact, my own parents used to make me stand at the military’s stance of attention in order to ensure I remained respectful for the entire conversation. Fortunately, I’ve matured at least far enough that the command is no longer necessary. From my perspective as a teen, it is much easier to simply stand respectfully and not worry about other more forceful means of attention-getting. Either way, respect is key to a successful conversation with an adult.

What would happen if teens never learned how to communicate respectfully? Well, very few of us would have jobs, especially if the boss requires a “Sir” or “Ma’am.”The military would be a lot sloppier and have difficulty in accomplishing its missions. Coworkers would probably request to have the teens fired, or maybe even quit themselves after they get tired of the constant disrespect.

As a teen, I think I can confidently say that the reason for disrespect when communicating with adults is based on the fact that we haven’t realized at this point in our lives what our parents have done for us. We don’t understand how much they’ve sacrificed for us and what a big favor having somebody else pay for all of our stuff really is. And we really don’t understand how far out of their way bosses go in taking us on, how much of a risk a new employee can be.

A lack of respect can harm every relationship a teen makes during adolescent years, and even sometimes extend on to their adult years. If teens never learn how to communicate respect, they can potentially cripple their own relationships and the opinions other people form about them. Communication between teens and adults, especially respectful communication, is a key life skill – especially for a Christian.

Editor's note: The "Totally Teen Talk" columns reflect the perspectives and experiences of the writer.